It is so rare that I do not have an idea for my blog. I have many ideas actually - I've even started a few. But nothing will spark. So here I am, on Thursday night with the lights dim, my keyboard lit and the house quiet - rubbing my smooth metal rock engraved with the word "inspire," trying to calm my mind. We had two holiday programs at school today. They were both wonderful, but the second one that just wrapped up a bit ago was very hectic from a lots-of-people-packed-into-a-school-gym-and-parking-lot-perspective. Which can really be too much for an introvert who doesn't like crowds. No, I do not attend the state fair.
Every year the month of December, while festive, is especially draining. Not from all the gift buying, but from all the people simultaneously doing all the gift buying. Add this to all the gatherings and all the small talk - and it's the reason why there have been years I could not answer the phone for days after Christmas. My husband could not at all understand.
If you get what I'm saying... if "the more the merrier" is not your cup of tea - it's ok. You are not alone (you just want some time alone.) The question though, is how do you get through - and truly enjoy yourself during the holidays without getting too wiped out? If I totally had the answer, this would not be the topic at my fingertips tonight. However, knowing myself as I do - and my need for self care - I am extra careful to plan time for myself, by myself. In yoga class, there is always a counter-balance pose. For instance, if you do back-bend-type poses, you would follow with a forward-bend pose, to balance out your body. This is how I like to think of it. If I find myself spending too much time in what feels like a pressure cooker, surrounded by lots of people and hectic energy - it's the energy actually, more so than the crowd now that I think about it. A crowded yoga class would not drain me in the same way a crowded school gym, party or check out line would. Interesting... anyway, if I find myself in too many "backbends" full of hectic energy, I know it is critical to practically halt life to take some time to decompress.
I read a book once, a number of years ago about living without fear. Much of it escapes me - but I very specifically recall one visual. It was a circle that, in a clockwise direction, listed some traits and "counter balances" for when you are a little bit stuck and then additional traits and "counter balances" for when you are really stuck. In other words, do you need 10 minutes to re-group, or an entire day off? The key here was to tune into the early indicators and interventions, instead of pushing through wearing massive, every-one-else-comes-first blinders until you are so far off center you hit a brick wall. For me it's a bath, a book (even just a chapter), a TV show - or to sit down and write. Time to myself. With the house quiet and clean. Proactively, it's yoga. And writing in my journal.
Do you know what it is for you... Do you know what to do to re-balance when you start to feel yourself heat up so to speak? Do you know your signs - when you are going from good, to warm, to hot - your yellow flags and red flags? If not, today is a good day to start. Begin to pay attention. Draw out the circle if you like. There will be no greater observation deck than these next two weeks. Observe. Then, understand that your mind and your body ARE ONE IN THE SAME! It makes no sense to worry about what you eat, but spend your days maxxed out. The body knows. And I firmly believe there is no loophole. So go, be mindful of your whole self, enjoy the season and create better health. Be DONE playing small.
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